A Temple, A Teacher and A Treasure (Designed: Physical)


“Your body listens to everything your mind says.”

On first impression our physical self seems pretty self explanatory. However, it actually is more inclusive and complex then one might initially think. So what does the physical part include? 1.) our bodies 2.) our physical needs and desires 3.) our senses that shape our experiences 4.) our physical sensations, and lastly 5.) our actions. Along with these various aspects we also have specific rights and responsibilities in relation to ourselves and others. Our bodies are designed as temples, that inform our thoughts, teach others about who we are, and are the treasure through which God works. Lets examine the wonderfully designed physical self that God has given to us, and our rights and responsibilities that go along with it.

1.) BODY. Your body is miraculously designed. It is your most distinguishing feature. Most people will recognize you by your physical appearance. We all struggle with aspects that we dislike about our appearances. Still your appearance is part of what makes you uniquely you and therefore it is something to celebrate. Your body is the most basic way in which you set boundaries. You have the right to decide who will be allowed to touch you and how you will allow them to touch you. You also have a responsibility to provide for and care for your body. This includes sleeping, eating, exercising, setting limits, personal hygiene, maintaining health care and healthy routines.

2.) NEEDS. Your physical needs are the things you need to survive and include things such as; food, sleep, air and water, without these things you will die. Those physical needs can be expanded to include things such as touch, communication, attention, clothing and shelter, while you may be able to live for a while without these thing you will surely need them eventually. You have the responsibility to get these needs met and to help meet these needs for others who are in your care. Remember is that it is not bad that you have needs! It is part of being human. You have a right to ask others to help meet your needs. Seeking to get your needs met in appropriate ways is how you are designed by God to function. We are designed to be in relationship. It is not a flaw! Our needs give us an opportunity to move toward growth and affords a reason to develop relationships with other people.

3.) SENSES. Our senses include sight, sound, touch, taste, smell, and hearing. These senses work together to help us gather information about the world around us. They alert us to things that may be dangerous, such as touching a hot stove, we would feel the pain and remove our hand. They also alert us to things that are pleasing, such as the taste of cold ice cream on a hot day. Our senses contribute to our individual likes and dislike of an experience. This makes our individual interpretation of an experience uniquely our own. For example we can both go to a symphony or a heavy metal concert and hear the same thing, but one of us love it and the other hate it. Simply because we have differing opinions on the experience doesn’t mean one of us is right and the other wrong. We have the right to our own unique opinions and experiences as well as the responsibility to express them respectfully. It is part of what defines each of us as an individual.

4.) SENSATIONS. Sensations are those things we feel physically within our bodies. For example before a job interview you might feel your heart racing. Other examples would be the feeling of physical pain in your chest as you grieve a loss, extra energy as you begin a dating relationship, or a tense neck and shoulders when you are under stress. These sensations are a physical manifestation of your emotional state and provide valuable information for you regarding your surroundings. If you are a person who has suffered abuse or trauma, it is possible that you will misuse or ignore these cues. For example, if you suffer from prolonged abuse, you may choose to ignore the uneasy feelings you get in your stomach when you’re around a certain individual so that you can continue to maintain a relationship with them. Or if you were the victim of a sudden traumatic event you may have escalated responses to anything that triggers memories of that event. You have a right to experience all your sensations with acceptance. There does not need to be a reason that you can specifically pinpoint for feeling uncomfortable around someone. Perhaps your body remembers things that are similar to people and situations that your mind can’t recall and is alerting you through sensations. We have the responsibility to pay attention to our sensations and respond appropriately by incorporating facts and emotions to determine specific actions.

5.) ACTIONS. Actions are what you choose to do with your body and words. You are always responsible for your own actions just like other people are solely responsible for their own actions. What you choose to do, or not to do, will almost always have an impact on others. Sometimes things will not be your fault, but you will still have the responsibility to fix them. For example if someone were to push you and cause you to fall and break your leg, that would not be your fault. Still it would be your responsibility to seek medical treatment and follow the treatment plan in order for your leg to heal. You have a right to set and enforce boundaries for through your actions, and the responsibility to take ownership of your actions.


My frame was not hidden from you when I was made in the secret place, when I was woven together in the depths of the earth. Your eyes saw my unformed body; all the days ordained for me were written in your book before one of them came to be.
(Psalm 139:15‭-‬16 NIV)

As I think about this verse I am struck anew by the thought “all my days were written in your book before one of them came to be”. So that means all of them! God knew my good days and bad days. He knew the days I would be victorious in my trials and the days I’d fail miserably and fall into sin. He knew every single moment I would have and exactly what I would choose. Still he chooses to love me. Not only does he know them, he uses them for good. That truth is true for you as well. There is nothing you have done or can ever do that excludes you from his love and plans for you. Also there is nothing anyone can do to you that will thwart his plan for your life. In fact God says in his word, “And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.” {Romans 8:28) and “being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you well carry it on to completion until the day of Jesus Christ.” (Phillippians 1:6) So, are you struggling with a past that haunts you? Or perhaps you are currently under the weight of a bondage that seems to powerful to break? Maybe you’re trapped in a situation that seems hopeless. What you are doing, what you’ve done, and what has been done to you are not the defining or limiting factors in God’s plan for your life. While you have rights and responsibilities you can rest in the confidence that God still has you and is able to work his purposes.


Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your bodies. (1 Corinthians 6:19-20)

Therefore, I urge you, brothers and sisters, in view of God’s mercy, to offer your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and pleasing to God-this is your true and proper worship. (Romans 12:1)

Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength. (Deuteronomy 6:5)

But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law. (Galatians 5:22-23)


Heavenly Father,

Thank you for creating me in such a way that I can experience the world that you have created. Thank you for all the marvelous sights, sounds, tastes, and smells that you have made for me to enjoy. Thank you for setting a rhythm to my days and night, for offering me times of activity and times of rest. I have to confess that sometimes when I think of my body I am very critical. I am not always pleased with my appearance and I often neglect to take care of myself the way I should. I also confess that I do and say things that I am not proud of, things that I know would be displeasing to you and hurtful to others. Thank you for not holding me to any standard of perfection in my appearance or in my actions. Help me to fix messes that I have created. Teach me to handle my rights and responsibilities in this area in ways that are pleasing to you. I ask for the spiritual gifts of love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control so that I can learn to implement them in my own life, and demonstrate them to others.


REFLECTIONS: Are you treating your body as a temple? What would you need to do to honor God with your body? Are you getting your physical needs met? Are you setting appropriate boundaries with your body, words, and actions? Are you maintaining healthy, balanced routines? What are some areas that you are strong in? What are some things you need to work on? Is there a specific area that you feel God is speaking to you about regarding the physical part of you? Journal your answers.

ACTIVITY OPTIONS: 1.) Think about your daily routines. Consider ways to bring things back into balance. Choose one item from your list to implement and track. 2.) Consider if you are getting all your physical needs met. If they are not being met, make and implement a plan to ask someone to help meet your physical needs. Journal the result. 3.) Practice mindfulness. Take 5 minutes each day to sit, still and quiet. Take notice of the environment around you with all your senses. What do you see, hear, smell, taste, and feel? Try to stay focused in that moment with no distractions. 4.) Find a quiet place to lay flat and still. Take a couple moments to calm your body. Focus on the inner sensations in your body starting with your head, neck and shoulders and moving systematically body parts down to your toes. Focus specifically on each area how it feels in the moment, then trying to relax each body part. 5.) Think about some of your current actions. Journal a time when you someone else was at fault at it was your responsibility to fix it. Now ponder things that are currently happening in your life. How is God asking you to respond in this situation? Journal your response.

When Words Hurt: Deciding Who Has The Right To Influence Your Inner Voice

received_909583419213313Choose wisely whom you allow to have the power to speak into your life, for their words will become your inner voice.  If you have ever suffered due to the accusations someone made about you, the labels they applied to you, or the harsh “feedback” they gave you, then you know all to well that this is true.  No doubt their words rang in your mind long after they said and left you wondering if maybe that person was right and those words were true.  The weight can feel crushing to your soul and the residual effects can haunt you long after the initial event.  It is for this reason that it is crucial that we take into consideration who we allow to speak to us about who we are, our actions and our motives.

It is true that people are called to speak into your life. As believers we are to be open to feedback about our blind spots. However, there are times when an individual’s interpretation of your behavior misses the mark entirely. In those times it is wise to hedge your heart and protect against the arrows the individual is launching. (Prov.4:23)

Here are some things to consider before receiving into your heart someones admonishment about your behaviors and motivations.

1.) How long have you known this person? If someone you have just met is trying to reveal to you the motivations of your heart BEWARE, they have not known you well enough to have that level of insight in to who you are and why you might do what you do.

We are designed for relationship and relationships take time to develop and grow. If someone has a long history with you and has proven their love for you over the course of that relationship, then they have earned the privilege of speaking truth into your life on a personal and intimate level. Someone you just met on-line last week has not known you long enough to speak to the intimate areas of your heart.

2.) What is the person’s interest in pointing out your faults or blind spots? They may tell you it is because they love you, but is it also possible that they are in some way hoping to benefit from you changing your behavior.

Consider what is in it for them if you change to conform to their desires. Would changing your behavior help you conform to God’s standards or the other persons standards?

3.) How is the person sharing the information with you? Are they being demeaning, demanding, or critical? Pay close attention to how you feel as they are sharing the information. It is normal that you might feel a little uncomfortable, but if you feel fearful, hopeless, condemned or demoralized it is likely that the person is not delivering a message from God.

When a person is speaking the truth in love to you, you will feel the love. You will hear the love in their voice and their words. They will be able to say things that are difficult to hear, but have it covered in a true compassion and love for you.

4.) What is the character of the person who is trying to speak truth to you? If the individual is not in a right relationship with God or has questionable morals you may want to consider if what they are sharing may be skewed by their own areas of sin and their own blind spots.

God has clear boundaries and truth in his word. An individual who is in a good position to speak truth to you will know truth and be living it out in their own life. Granted no one is perfect, the individual who is speaking to you will also have personal areas of sin and struggle, but it is most likely that they will be, at the very least, trying to live a life of purity before God and have a solid knowledge of his word.

5.) Are you getting the same message from a variety of different sources? If one person is telling you you are impossible to get along with and every one else is telling you you are too compromising then those are clearly mixed messages and one of them is incorrect.

God is a God of consistency. There is a good chance that if the Holy Spirit is poking around in your heart you will be receiving the same message over and over from a variety of sources.


How To Make An Important Decision


Should I stay in this relationship? Should I move? Should I go back to school? Should I change careers? We are constantly making decisions, BIG decisions, that effect our lives and the lives of those we love. For some people the decision making process is a very logical process and they consider only the facts. For others it is an emotional process where only feelings are considered, and for still others decisions are made simply be the default of not actually making a decision. Throughout my career I have had the opportunity to assist people as they work through making life changing decisions. However, it wasn’t until I myself was overwhelmed with the need to make a series of very serious life changing decisions that I developed a formula through which I could process the information and make those tough decisions. I have found that by working through this process I am easily able to see various aspects of the situation and take multiple factors into consideration. When I use this process I am able to stand secure and confident in the decision I have made and still be flexible to new information. I hope you will find it helpful as well.

In steps 1-4 you are simply examining the situation as it is now. As you take these things into consideration you may be able to gain a deeper understanding of the situation which will later help you come up with solutions.

STEP 1: Define the problem or situation. What does the problem or situation look like? Write out the situation exactly as you currently see it and express why a change may need to be made.

STEP 2: Get the facts. What are the facts relating to the problem or situation as it is at this moment? What specific things are making you desire to make a change? What is the history that led up to this situation.

STEP 3: Attend to your feelings. How do you feel about the situation? Remember you may have mixed feelings about any situation. You can love and hate someone at the same time. You are simply acknowledging your feelings as they relate to the situation and the facts. So consider the good, bad and the ugly; this is a judgment free zone.

STEP 4: Guiding lights. Are there any moral principals, values, or expectations that are entwined in the situation? For example: Loyalty to family or friends, religion or beliefs etc. Pay special attention to your personal expectations of yourself or others that may need to be examined or adjusted. Also, if you are a christian you will want to be sure you are spending time in God’s word and in prayer asking the Holy Spirit to help guide you.

In steps 5-7 you will consider the opinions of others. You will also consider the effect of the situation and it’s potential outcomes on others who my be effected by your choices.

STEP 5: Consult your support people. These are the friends, family, or mentors in your life that you are willing to let see the real you. These are people whose opinions you respect, the ones who will be honest with you because they love you. There is no magical number of people, but typically I suggest you limit your choice to 3 or 4 people. Let them know some of the details of your situation. Ask them to pray for you and about the situation. Ask them to share their thoughts and ideas about potential solutions to the situation. This step is important because sometimes others will see things you miss and they may be able to offer valuable insight. Also, remember that while you are asking their opinions, you will ultimately be making the decision yourself. You are asking because you are in the process of gathering more information to help you make a good decision.

STEP 6: Consult with a professional. By reaching out to someone who is familiar with the situation you are going through you may find there are more solutions and resources available to you. The person you choose might be a counselor, a real estate agent, or a professor. The idea is to find some one with information to share from an area of expertise on the subject of your problem or one of your potential solutions. This step is meant to be an information gathering step. Ask lots of questions and be prepared to take notes!

STEP 7: Consider other’s perspectives. How does your partner view the situation? What about your children, parents and friends? How will making changes effect the people in your life? This is step will help you empathize with the other people in your life. The reason this step is so important is because as you make these decisions it is these people who will create the greatest source of comfort and motivation or distress. Attending to these issues now will help you to address their arguments and concerns when they arise later. They may not be in agreement with you, but at least you will have thought about how to give a thoughtful response to their concerns.

In steps 8-12 you engage in the process of defining a course of action. It is in these steps that you will set your course for your future.

STEP 8: Define your desired outcomes. What would you like to see happen? What would you like your life to look like in this area in the next 5 years? This is the dream step! Allow yourself to dream about the life you want! What does it look like? Take the time to write it out and reflect on it.

STEP 9: List possible options. Consider both the problem and the dream. List all possible courses of action including continuing to do what you have always done. For each course of action write out the pros and cons.

STEP 10: Choose course of action. Evaluate all the choices select one course of action to follow that will help you attain your desired outcome. What do you need to do to pursue that course of action? Decide what action steps you need to do and develop a timeline to get things done in. You may find it helpful to work with one or more of the people you identified in steps 5 and 6 to help you develop a specific plan and help hold you accountable for taking each of the steps.

STEP 11: Consider the obstacles. What are the obstacles that may hinder you in following this course of action? What may stand in your way or block you? Obstacles may come in the form of practical limitations such as education, finances, or safety. They may even come in the form of people or expectations. Make a specific plan for addressing each of the obstacles.

STEP 12: Implement the plan. Follow the plan you outlined in step 10. As you go through the plan continue to evaluate how things are going and making adjustments as new information comes in and as situations arise. Remember you can be flexible in your plan and make adjustments to move you closer to your desired outcomes and dreams.

Congratulations!! You have made it all the way to the end of the decision making process.